What is Love?

Recently, a very good friend of mine has been finding answers to cure his immense amount of feeling to be in love. For such a gay friend of mine to have such mixed feelings, I am sure that it must be troubling him to a certain extent.

Dear Paparazzi, please find my comments to your recent post.

What is love?

Love is not: 2NaCl + 2H2SO4 + MnO2 --> Na2SO4 + MnSO4 + 2H2O + Cl2.

This is not chemistry for love.

Love is support, understanding, care and most importantly, passion.

There is no fixed formula to love someone. It is not like when you have all the elements equipped, you know that you can start loving someone.


Love is something that is nurtured over time.

Love at first sight. I never fully support this statement to any extent. My friend used to tell me, "Hey dude, I love this girl."

How much do you know a person to love a person? If you love a person even without knowing his/her name, in Cupid's love book, how is he supposed to write down the names?


Does great sex constitute to loving a person?

"I had sex with her all night long and it was the best ever."

Are you sure that love is just about sex? There are more than 1000 prostitutes in Singapore and I am sure that you can find love there if this is the case.


This must be true love? Some things are just destined.

I am sad to say that I see no facts in this statement. I think love is something one creates. It’s a matter of how to make things work.

I think getting to know a person well is very important. Let me emphasize the beauty of love in my definition.

1. Support

In each of our daily lives, we make decision. We make decisions to have chicken rice for lunch and we make decisions to alter the ways our life was meant to be. This decision might not solely be for personal objectives but rather it will also be dependent on others. Sometimes, we make decisions that are major which will incur a drastic change in human and environment behaviors. As a form of respect, we are willing to voice and discuss. But still the final decision is based on oneself. If one chooses to make a decision, all one can ask for is support. If a partner is unable to give that kind of support, it will only incur more troubles for your partner.
Let me list an example. If I were to change my job scope now from Banking to Sales, I would be jobless without an income, will my partner support me for doing so. I have my own reason for making this decision and I only opt for support and not anything else. If my partner insists on not giving me support on this and threatens to break up with me, would I still deem this person as a partner.

2. Understanding

Some things are easier said than done. A certain level of chemistry and understanding denotes a perfect relationship. I can say that you have attained the level of trust and understanding when your partner can tell your feelings even without you saying a word. Silent understanding is the most difficult and the most sacred. This is very difficult to come by.

3. Care

You care for your partner and you are worried for your partner and you think about your partner. You are afraid that her menstrual cramp will affect her health and you are afraid that the knife will cut her finger. Will you be willing to go down to Geylang to get her her favorite Bean curd when you stay in Jurong? Are you willing to brace through the storm to bring her to the doctor even though she only had a pimple outbreak.

4. Passion

I really need to emphasize that Passion does not denote sex. Do you feel like grabbing her hands and hold it closely next to yours? Do you have the urge to buy her that dress you see on the mannequin? Do you think of lying next to her watching her sleep? Do you have the urge to call her just to check if she was bored? Do you have the urge to grab her close and tell her you loved her? Are you able to do anything and everything for her?

Please forget all the bullshit I have stated. What I really want to say is that it is not easy to love someone. But you can start by knowing someone better and who knows one day this liking may become love eventually.

And as my conclusion, I would say love is nothing until you experience it. So I am really suggesting for you to go ahead and experience it. Regardless whether the love potion is bitter or sweet, you would never know until you sipped it. You are not young anymore and we are all matured adults here. You would never know until you try. So shed that gay shell of yours and move on. Move to somewhere where you will experience something that no man can give you.

Regards,
Almost Virgin