How Heavy Is Your Ego?

Every man and woman has his or her own pride and dignity. We live each day to make sure we live life to the fullest and making tons of money without betraying out pride and dignity. When we realise that we hate ourselves and we cannot find ourselves and we have begin to start living a life for others, living a life that others want us to live, you know you have started to lose yourself.

We were born to stand tall, face the sun and breathe the air every single day. We try to live a carefree life with no worries, no burden and no obligation. We try to live our lives the way we want it to be. Things were never going to be easy. We live a life with rules and considerations that this society moulds for us. Each step that we take is heavy as the butterfly effect rules us to our max. Different people have a different level of endurance. Some of us can take a simple joke like a fart, others might take a simple joke like a knife stab. It is the level of pride and dignity that differentiates this difference. As long as a party knows the thin red line of the other party’s joke and ridicule, the world will be a much better place to live in.

But this is what the New World would be. We are currently living in a cold fake world out here. We live in a world filled with lies and deception. We live in a world where no one can be trusted. We live in a world where everyone is plastic. We live in a world where we cannot even trust the person you sleep next to every night. We live in hell.

Our words anger people unknowingly. Our actions provoked people unintentionally. Why do we care? Since we did not know and it wasn’t intentional, why should we care? We did not know that a simple phrase could cause so much hurt and pain. We did not know that a simple action could arouse such significant envy and jealousy.

But the bottom line is, should we care? Or we shouldn’t?

Life is all about compromises and sacrifices. Sometimes we win and sometimes we lose. Sometimes we give and sometimes we receive. Who doesn’t want to win all the time and receive all the time? Men are selfish by nature and we all yearn for happiness. Does it mean that we will spend a lifetime to yearn for it and eventually we will never get happiness? All men were born beautiful. Do you picture a child so fair and cute in a cradle to be a serial killer thirty years down the road? Can you imagine a boy so young and innocent looking to be a rapist twenty years down the road? Do you imagine this angel like child to be a mother who would kill her own daughter forty years down the road?

What constitutes to all these miserable, sinful, unholy acts of men? What lies behind the story of these people to make them behave as such? Were they born like that or are these characters innate? Why must the society push us to a corner? Why do our friends betray us? How can I make my love ones appreciate me? When will money stop driving us crazy?

Do you believe in God? Do you pray to Deity? Do you think that someone, somewhere will come to save you when you are in trouble? We should believe in ourselves and we save ourselves. Men make mistakes no doubt. But we will have to learn to stand up and face the music. When we fall we brush the pain aside and we learnt from our mistake and we make sure we fall no further. We feel down sometimes but we learn to make these negatives into positives.

First we learn to put our ego in a place warm and sunny. We will have to learn to use our ego as out strength rather than a noun for people to use as a section of their sarcastic remarks. How heavy is your ego that you cannot put it down? How heavy is your ego that you cannot listen to advise? How heavy is your ego that you cannot accept criticism?

You bow your head low when your bosses scold you upside down. You plot for revenge to scratch your bosses’ car. You swear to burn down the barber’s shop just because the barber shaved your eyebrow away. You beam the car in front of you just because he is driving too slowly. You scream at your girlfriend/boyfriend just because you are in a bad mood.

If only we could tame ourselves, lower our ego and spare a though for others. I understand it takes two hands to clap. At least someone should get it started. If we just continue our life just like it is and wait till everyone starts or at least till someone starts so that you can benefit from it all, the world will always be as ugly as it was. If everyone can do so and play a part, starting from now, at this point, at this moment, pick up your phone and drop a message to your love ones, to your best friends. You tell them that you loved them or at least tell them that you thank them for being there for you. They will be happy and you will be happy. Lower down your ego and let all of us make this world a better place to live in.

It’s hard I know. I, myself, am still trying. Shall we try together?

Author
Johnny Kwek